As an author, coach and entrepreneur I am buying, selling, partnering, collaborating, debating, helping, sharing and interacting with people from all over the world via the internet.
People from all walks of life across the globe are coming together on the internet to share their gifts, contribute, get help, belong, exchange and express themselves like never before.
On some sites people are advocating the same cause, posting their life purpose, sharing their problems and frustrations, expressing opinions and beliefs, praying, creating, collaborating, and debating. It is at the same time a) highly personalized and b) global in reach. So the opportunities are immense to build a following for those who have a message, a cause, a service or a product to share with the world.
Technology is ubiquitous and cheap. The question becomes: how can I make a difference?
Well it’s the psychology piece of the equation. Those who master the psychology (in an ethical and non manipulative way) are able to rise above the zillions of sites out there and build a presence.
Even for those of us using the internet for non business purposes; they are also called to examine who they are, what do they want to say, how they want to be perceived and find their place and their voice among their communities of belonging.
If what I have to say could potentially touch others globally do I want my video to go viral with me doing something silly or something meaningful?
We fall back to the age old question of “know thy self”.
Like never before we need to examine our lives, purpose and place and make sense of all that in a coherent manner for ourselves and others since potentially we are all broadcasting to the world.
Before the internet hanging your shingle somewhere would have meant interacting with a few hundred or a few thousands prospects, now it could possibly mean reaching millions.
Mastering the psychology has three components: figuring out a) yourself, b) others and c) how you put it all together.
a) Understanding self
You can look at it as the way you organized your knowledge of self (what you have made explicit about yourself). Hence the more you know about your singularities, subjectivities and idiosyncrasies the clearer you are about your identity and its distinction.
Your identity will be influenced by your representation of self (attributes and characteristics) throughout your life. How did you represent yourself in childhood as a teen and as an adult?
How are you constructing your narrative now, How are you creating your autobiographical memory?
You want to distinguish self perception or description ie: your self adequacy in a domain (I am good at football, I am smart, I am loved by my family) from global self evaluation (I am a worthwhile person) i.e. self worth or self esteem because when you are doing developmental work it is useful to know which specific life domain requires your attention.
You want to work on both aspects: a) self concept in the different life domains such as cognitive, affective, emotional, social and physical and b) realistic self evaluation (the difference between your perceived success and your aspiration) because you need to both improve yourself efficacy and your self mastery.
Working on your future possible self, creating an ideal self can be a powerful motivator to engage in self improvement practices.
Now your identity will also be influenced by the image others have of you, by your interpretative style of life events, by the hand you’ve been dealt with as a child etc.
Now comes the internet. You need to build your site, your blog, or your page on a social media site. Is this page a reflection of who you are? What is it saying about you?
To be continued.